No Disclaimers

When my husband and I were dating, he tried to stop me from using disclaimers, because I did it all the time. Any time I was giving an opinion, or anything I thought may be controversial, I would disclaimer it. Often times, the disclaimer would be that I reserved the right to change my opinion at any point in the future and didn't want to be held to it.

I used to be the type of person who could and would say whatever came to my mind whenever it came. What happened was that I hurt people regularly. A good friend finally called me out on giving unwarranted opinions (judgements really..). I want to be more like that again without the hurting people part. There are two people in my life right now who never feel the need to disclaimer. They have total confidence in themselves and what they're saying and so don't feel the need to be wishywashy about it. It's so refreshing--a really strong and positive characteristic to be unapologetically yourself.

There's got to be a good middle, where you are unapologetically yourself, somehow still aware and sensitive to people's feelings, and willing to be wrong. I'd like to find that middle. I think people should more often live their lives with no disclaimers.